Understanding the Issue

There are great differences of opinion and controversy surrounding the issues related to same-sex attractions and the active homosexual lifestyle. We at Carolina New Song hold views that are often in sharp contrast to the predominant, and often hotly contested, views in our culture.

The following is a brief overview of what we understand to be the implications of holding to the current culturally accepted views on homosexuality. If you are reading this page, chances are you are familiar with some or all of the following scenarios.

The Prevailing Cultural View

The prevailing cultural view is that same-sex attractions are either a result of genetic factors or prenatal issues. In other words, people are just “born that way.”

We do not accept this view.

Holding to this view logically leads to a second contention: that this innate condition is not something that can be altered. It is, in effect, immutable. Most people living as active homosexuals embrace this view, and therefore believe that change is neither possible, nor necessary.

Effects and Consequences of the “Born That Way” View

Here are a few of our observations of the attitudes and behaviors of a culture that holds to this view.

  1. This view often serves to comfort any tendency toward guilt or shame. This involves self-assurance that “this is who I am and I can do nothing to change it.” “It’s not my fault.” “God made me this way.”
  2. This view often results in hostility toward those who desire change. Holding the belief that change is possible, or to be involved in any ministry that seeks to provide help in a process of change, is regarded as an expression of hatred or homophobia. This is a common attitude among persons who are living as active homosexuals, and especially among those affiliated with militant gay organizations. However, while common, this is not universal. Many impacted by same-sex attractions live quiet, restrained lives free of such animosity.
  3. This view may result in anger toward God. One may ask “Why did God make me this way?” “Why does he not answer my prayers?” Many people caught up in this anger turn away from the church, some even abandoning their faith. Others may seek a church that is “gay friendly,” a place where the church leadership has yielded to cultural pressure for tolerance and acceptance of homosexual behavior.
  4. This view gives rise to a need to either ignore scripture or to find an alternative interpretation of the scriptures that relate to human sexuality. There are a number of works that examine this process (see Resources).
  5. This view commonly causes division and hostility in families. A child who believes he was born gay and cannot change may be alienated from his parents if they do not accept this view. There may also be division between family members over how to relate to those who experiences same-sex attractions. These tensions have in some cases led to divorce by the parents.

This list is certainly not exhaustive. We are in the midst of an incredible cultural shift relating to issues around homosexuality. The full effect of completely accepting the homosexual lifestyle without consequence in our society has yet to be seen. Churches, and even entire denominations, continue to be rattled and divided over different views on this one issue.

With that said, it is not our intent to be critical of those who disagree with the above statements.

We simply desire to communicate the essence of what we believe with accuracy and to extend hope toward those who wish to be free from unwanted same-sex attractions.

We feel our appropriate response to these issues is to offer a safe place for those who experience unwanted same-sex attractions to find help and support on their own journey of healing.  Please read on to find out more about our Approach to Ministry.